Here are a list of ways to discover your best dietary practice to look and feel awesome (in no particular order). But first a hard truth: Your diet best reflects your appearance. If you dont look how you want to look, then your diet is not right for you. I dont care which celebrity trainer wrote about it on twitter and I dont care which magazine or doctor encourages it. If your body sux then your diet sux (oh, and it is not a lack of cardio – here’s a post that explains why).
- Whatever diet you are doing right now, do for 4 weeks. If you see no change then it is wrong. Dont stick with it longer, you are kidding yourself. In fact, most diets that are any good will have you drop at least a couple kilos of fluid in the first couple weeks.
- Do the opposite of what you are doing. Draw a circle on a piece of paper. Now divide it into 3 sections – one for how much carb you eat, one for protein and one for fat, just do it roughly. Whatever it looks like, now reverse it for a month.
- Stop kidding yourself about moderation. “Everything in moderation” – gets the award for the most used cop out ever in dieting history. The average person who tells me they eat in moderation eats cereal for brekky, a sandwhich for lunch and rice and meat for dinner. And maybe a little chocolate. Your diet is 80% grain based carbs you idiot – that is not moderation! Try this: for every meal you eat that has carbs, have one that doesnt. For every meal that doesnt contain a serve of fat, have one that does. Then tell me about moderation.
- If you try a new diet plan, do it for more than 4 days before giving up. Just coz you didnt lose a ton of weight on your first week doesnt mean you should go back to what you where doing.
- Dont go back to what you are used to. Seriously, I know so many people that are happy to be unhappy as long as they dont get fatter. God damn crap hell people! Dont stick with what you have always done just because you know that you wont get fatter doing that. Put your balls on the line and try new things until you crack that nut! Playing it safe sux and will never take you to the next level.
- Dont kid yourself that you dont need supplements. You do. You need them because our soils suck (where the food grows) and because you dont always eat well. Supplements will get you there faster if they are good quality.
- If you want a role model, dont choose someone who is obviously a good genetic example (like those tv trainers). If being in the fitness industry for 10 years has taught me anything its that some people are just genetically better. This person will generally look good without much effort. You do not want to follow that person. You want to find someone who is in good shape that bitches about how hard it is to get it and maintain it. That person has been through the ringer and will have actual experiences to help you with your journey. Oh by the way, if you are not in the shape you want to be in then you arent one of those genetically gifted people, but you can still get in AWESOME shape!
- Dont get your dietary information from magazines or mainstream television programs. These people just want to sell you stuff! They dont want you to get healthy because then you will stop buying their exercise machines, diet shakes, pills, power bars, energy drinks and other crap. If you saw it in the media then it is most likely and ADD! Also, if you do feel empowered by tv information then feel free not to tell your trainer thereby forcing them to hold back from slapping you.
- Pay for your dietary information. Time has taught me that the worst advice is free advice. Try a few professionals out, find someone you trust and pay for their time and experience. Dont trust anyone that looks crap – especially doctors and dieticians that are obviously not healthy themselves. Being tight with your money will just extend how long it takes you to change.
- Have a glass of water before you eat anything. No explanation just try it.
- If you are carrying weight specifically around your hips and midsection (the doughnut midsection) then you are eating too much carbohydrate. Please no delusional arguments to the contrary here. If it is, then you are.
- Dont do what your friend did, just because it worked for her. You are not her, stop trying to be. Be your totally individual self.
- Listen to what your body wants and needs. Sometimes you just need chocolate. Sometimes i just feel like juice or some alcoholic cider or egg yokes. Whatever it is you should be aware of your random nutritional needs. Dont ignore them because you are on low carb or whatever.
- Keep a food diary. Write down how each meal makes you feel (e.g. bloated, tired, full, jittery, spacey etc).
- Stick with it. You can work it out, you are meant to be lean, dont ever give up!
Ultimately, I have realised that you are not meant to follow a specific, structured diet. You need this at the start to be able to work out what does and doesnt work. Eventually however, you are supposed to be able to learn to satisfy your body’s needs from moment to moment each day. This is incredibly fun because you will go days ‘eating well’ and then suddenly get a craving for pizza or chips or pink grapefruit or whatever and be able to eat it without concern.
No fear, keep trying until you work it out!
Read any article or website about health and fitness and it will tell you that you need to deny yourself. No carbs, no alcohol, no sugar, avoid late nights, no big meal at night, smaller portion sizes, use less water blah blah blah. Im suffocating in a friggin’ healthy ecological bubble! Rant aside, the denial process is bullsh!t and doesnt work and Im going to show you why.
Wherever our innate desires come from (soul, God, mind, fate, fairies – Im not sure) they arrive for a reason. I believe that life is about experience and that our inner desires drive us towards particular experiences that we need to have to grow as a person. There are no right or wrongs in this other than what we choose to judge about ourselves and others. So when these desires stream through us the best thing you can do is let them out and enjoy them, no matter what they are. If you could learn to do this fully then your body would look and feel as good as you want it to.
The problem we run into today is that we have a denial culture. “But?” I hear you say. “If we are denying ourselves, then why is alcoholism is at its worst?” I believe this is because we have denied ourselves for so long that our need to get free is exploding out into society like a rebellious two year old who has been told “No you cant!” Our desires are a stream and you can only plug them up for so long. The harder you repress, the more it will build up and need to explode out of you at some point.
Why is alcoholism so rampant? How do you act when you are drunk? Do you have more of a tendency to say whatever you feel? Are you more likely to do childish silly things just for the fun of it? Do you make yourself more available to enjoy sex with people when ordinarily you would hold yourself back? People drink because it allows a sense of freedom that most of us do not enjoy when we are living our daily lives. Think about it. You cant say negative things to people, even if you mean them, because its socially unacceptable. If you were to roll up to work in a shopping trolley pushed by your mates then you would probably be reprimanded by your boss or may lose clients. You probably know of a guy or girl that you think is pretty special but you never ask them out because you are too afraid of the shame of rejection. We are constantly holding ourselves back because of the fear our mind creates for us.
Alcoholism is not a reflection of peoples desire to drink fermented grapes and grain, it is reflective of our need to be fully expressive as human beings. We are denying that which we need to get out and express and it is making us a serious and intellectually dominated, fear of embarassment society.
Here are my practical thoughts on how to cure yourself of the need or want to drink.
1. Go get drunk with some friends, somewhere out in public. You will probably find that its a really good time and that you wake up feeling rusty but with a general sense of “yeah, that was fun”.
2. Hopefully you can remember what you got up to (if not ask your mates, thats why you went out with them). Make a list of all the things that you did that you wouldnt ordinarily have done if you hadnt had a skinfull.
3. Look at the list. Those things that are not ordinary behaviour are probably the areas of your life that you are holding yourself back on. If you talked to girls, then do it sober. If you danced like a maniac, do it sober. If you hugged your best mate and told him that you loved him, well I think you are getting the picture.
4. If you struggle with your new behavioural tasks, go do it again! Im not saying that drinking is good for you, it is not. However, I am saying that holding back on the desires that are so obviously there when you are tanked IS WORSE for you than the booze.
The above has been my experience and in fact I was amazed to discover that after several years of living alcohol free (and very held back) and on a very strict diet that my body actually looked BETTER for a while during my drunken self awareness campaign. I believe this is due to the fact that I was having so much fun and feeling so free that my body became more balanced.
If you do this properly then you do not have to worry about becoming addicted to alcohol. At some point you will do it enough that your innate desires will suddenly tell you to start doing things differently and you will give it the flick. If you are really afraid of what the alcohol might do to your body, no problem, man up and go do it all sober!